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Finding Out Basic Problems (Counseling Basics)

In many years of meeting with Christians who are in trouble of some kind, I try to find out basic problems. To do this, I ask questions.

1. What is your mouth like? “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Luke 6:45).

It is amazing how many “Christians” talk dirty. The answers I get go like this:
“I work on a fishing boat.”
“I work in a restaurant kitchen.”
“I’m in the Marines.”
What they are doing is giving me excuses for talking dirty—as if that was an adequate answer.

2. When was the last time you read all of the New Testament?

They say, “All of it?”

3. I ask for their life story. I find out many things that they do not know they are telling me.

4. Do you have more joy in your live today than you had when you were converted?

I know the answer—it’s no. The reason for the answer is that they have years of unconfessed sin. I found out that was true for me when I had been a Christian for 3 ½ years. Two years later, I found out again. My first awakening was in the spring of 1951 on a ship in the Sea of Japan. I was awakened by reading The Calvary Road, given to me by two women missionaries in Japan. I cleaned house—I confessed every sin I could remember since I had become a Christian. It was wonderful. Several years later, I found out that I had again accumulated unconfessed sin. This time, it was by reading Continuous Revival. I will be glad to send one or both of these books to you. You can reach me here, at jimwilson27@frontier.com, or at (208) 882-4383.

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