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Suggestions for Christian Married Couples

Here are a few suggestions for Christian married couples who have been married at least ten years. These are in order of my thinking of them, not in order of importance. I am not thinking specifically of my own marriage or any one other marriage.

• Any occasion where the wife dresses up is an occasion (e.g. church, going out to dinner). The husband should also dress up for the same occasion. He may not want to; it is out of love and respect to dress accordingly.
• By this time, you both have put on a few pounds around the middle. The husband may accept it as normal in himself, but he does not like it in his wife. Take action on your own pounds right away for your health (both of you) and because you do not want to go to bed with a fat wife or husband.
• Husbands, pick up your socks, skivvies, pajamas, etc. Any dirty clothes—put them when they belong. Hang up what is not dirty.
• Husbands, offer to help with dishes often and really do them some of the time.
• If your wife is not well, learn how to cook basic foods so they are really good, for your sake and hers.
• Hospitality: Commit your office and your home. Give to singles, couples, and families. This will mean work before, during, and afterwards. The event should be given without resentment or regret.
• The Bible: Each one of you should have your own quiet time with the Lord. You should also have time together in the Word and another time with your family.
• Husbands should thank God for the food at every meal. Wives, if you suspect that your husband is not going to thank God for the food:
o Let it go; do not ask him.
o Don’t you do it.
o Don’t ask one of your guests.
• Have an inductive Bible study in your home with not more than three couples.
• If you are having difficulty in your marriage, husbands, get help from a mature Christian man whose marriage is going well. Do not have a Bible study in your home until you are in full fellowship with your wife.
• If you have children who are of school age, have a Bible study in your home for school kids. When your oldest starts junior high, you should start a junior high Bible study.

There will be a lot of people who can help you on all of these suggestions. I am willing to help on all of these. Contact me at (208) 882-4383 or jimwilson27@frontier.com.

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