This is another excerpt from Climbing by Rosalind Goforth.
“He that doth not forgive burns the bridge over which he himself must needs pass, for the Lord hath said, ‘If ye forgive not…neither will your father forgive you.’”
The tragic story of how, but for the mercy of God, that jagged rock of unforgiveness would have wrecked me, body and soul, is given as a solemn warning to others.
The first sad details of how and why the demon of hate and unforgiveness entered my heart cannot be given, for another is involved who has passed on. Suffice it to say that those who knew the facts agree that humanly speaking one can scarcely imagine a case where unforgiveness was more justified; yet my dear husband, who had equal reason with myself for feeling as I did, quietly and calmly laid it all before the Lord and left it there, begged me to do the same; but I could not, or rather would not, forgive.
For more than a year, while the source of trouble remained at our station, I would not speak to or recognize that one. Four years passed, during which time the matter remained with me more or less in abeyance. Then one day my husband and I were traveling by train with a number of coworkers en route to the religious fair at Hsunhsien, where a campaign of evangelism was carried on. This year I had been put in charge of the women’s work there.
For months I had been deeply but secretly moved by the evident spiritual power that had come into my husband’s life. I, his wife, could not but see that he was indeed filled with the Spirit of God. There had come into my soul a great yearning that I, too, might have this fullness of Spirit.
As we sat there on the train that day, I asked my husband to sit with the others, for I wanted to be alone. When he left, I bent my head and cried to God to fill me with His Spirit as he has filled my husband. Unmistakably clear came the Inner Voice, “Write to (the one towards whom I felt hatred and unforgiveness), and ask forgiveness for the way you have treated him!” My whole soul cried out, “Never, never can I forgive him!” Again I prayed as before, and again the Inner Voice spoke clearly as before. Again I cried out in my heart, “Never; never. I will never forgive him!” When for the third time this was repeated, I jumped to my feet and said to myself, “I’ll give it all up, for I’ll never, never forgive!” I joined the others and laughed and talked to hide my agitation. Then followed the saddest part of my life. For several months, I preached and prayed to keep up appearances but all the while my heart was becoming harder, colder, and more hopeless.
Then one day that passage in the Pilgrim’s Progress came to me (I think I was reading to the children), where Christian, when going through the house of the Interpreter, came to the man in the cage who said, “I have grieved the Spirit, and He is gone: I have provoked God to anger, and He has left me.” As I read this passage, a terrible conviction came upon me that the words I have quoted were true of me. During the two days and nights that followed, I was in the depths of despair, believing God’s Holy Spirit had left me. My husband was away from home, and there seemed no one to whom I could turn. Then God in His mercy sent someone to me.
A young missionary whose wife had died under peculiarly sad circumstances, when passing through our station, came over to see me. It was evening, and the children were in bed. We sat on the front steps together while he sobbingly told of his wife’s tragic death. Suddenly the very flood gates seemed loosed within me, and I gave way to uncontrollable weeping. When able, I told all the story as I have related it, and its sad, early details, then ended with, “I have grieved the Holy Spirit of God, and He has left me!”
“But Mrs. Goforth,” he said, “are you willing to write the letter?”
I replied: “I now know what it would be to be without God and without hope, and if I could only have another chance, there is nothing I would not do.”
Again he asked, “Are you willing to write that letter?”
“Yes,” I replied.
“Then go at once and write it.”
With a glorious ray of hope dawning in me, I ran into the house and in a few minutes returned with the letter. It was just a few lines of humble apology for my actions, with out any reference to the other part. Oh, the joy that came, and thankfulness that it was indeed not too late.
From that time, I have never DARED not to forgive. There have been times when or hours, or even days, the battle was on again, but always the remembrance of this experience enabled me to conquer and forgive.
“He that doth not forgive burns the bridge over which he himself must needs pass, for the Lord hath said, ‘If ye forgive not…neither will your father forgive you.’”
The tragic story of how, but for the mercy of God, that jagged rock of unforgiveness would have wrecked me, body and soul, is given as a solemn warning to others.
The first sad details of how and why the demon of hate and unforgiveness entered my heart cannot be given, for another is involved who has passed on. Suffice it to say that those who knew the facts agree that humanly speaking one can scarcely imagine a case where unforgiveness was more justified; yet my dear husband, who had equal reason with myself for feeling as I did, quietly and calmly laid it all before the Lord and left it there, begged me to do the same; but I could not, or rather would not, forgive.
For more than a year, while the source of trouble remained at our station, I would not speak to or recognize that one. Four years passed, during which time the matter remained with me more or less in abeyance. Then one day my husband and I were traveling by train with a number of coworkers en route to the religious fair at Hsunhsien, where a campaign of evangelism was carried on. This year I had been put in charge of the women’s work there.
For months I had been deeply but secretly moved by the evident spiritual power that had come into my husband’s life. I, his wife, could not but see that he was indeed filled with the Spirit of God. There had come into my soul a great yearning that I, too, might have this fullness of Spirit.
As we sat there on the train that day, I asked my husband to sit with the others, for I wanted to be alone. When he left, I bent my head and cried to God to fill me with His Spirit as he has filled my husband. Unmistakably clear came the Inner Voice, “Write to (the one towards whom I felt hatred and unforgiveness), and ask forgiveness for the way you have treated him!” My whole soul cried out, “Never, never can I forgive him!” Again I prayed as before, and again the Inner Voice spoke clearly as before. Again I cried out in my heart, “Never; never. I will never forgive him!” When for the third time this was repeated, I jumped to my feet and said to myself, “I’ll give it all up, for I’ll never, never forgive!” I joined the others and laughed and talked to hide my agitation. Then followed the saddest part of my life. For several months, I preached and prayed to keep up appearances but all the while my heart was becoming harder, colder, and more hopeless.
Then one day that passage in the Pilgrim’s Progress came to me (I think I was reading to the children), where Christian, when going through the house of the Interpreter, came to the man in the cage who said, “I have grieved the Spirit, and He is gone: I have provoked God to anger, and He has left me.” As I read this passage, a terrible conviction came upon me that the words I have quoted were true of me. During the two days and nights that followed, I was in the depths of despair, believing God’s Holy Spirit had left me. My husband was away from home, and there seemed no one to whom I could turn. Then God in His mercy sent someone to me.
A young missionary whose wife had died under peculiarly sad circumstances, when passing through our station, came over to see me. It was evening, and the children were in bed. We sat on the front steps together while he sobbingly told of his wife’s tragic death. Suddenly the very flood gates seemed loosed within me, and I gave way to uncontrollable weeping. When able, I told all the story as I have related it, and its sad, early details, then ended with, “I have grieved the Holy Spirit of God, and He has left me!”
“But Mrs. Goforth,” he said, “are you willing to write the letter?”
I replied: “I now know what it would be to be without God and without hope, and if I could only have another chance, there is nothing I would not do.”
Again he asked, “Are you willing to write that letter?”
“Yes,” I replied.
“Then go at once and write it.”
With a glorious ray of hope dawning in me, I ran into the house and in a few minutes returned with the letter. It was just a few lines of humble apology for my actions, with out any reference to the other part. Oh, the joy that came, and thankfulness that it was indeed not too late.
From that time, I have never DARED not to forgive. There have been times when or hours, or even days, the battle was on again, but always the remembrance of this experience enabled me to conquer and forgive.
Comments
If we do not forgive, it is very likely he will not become a Christian. If we love him with the love of God, he is more likely to get saved. We cannot guarantee that he will get saved if we love him, but we can guarantee that he will not get saved as a result of knowing us if we do not forgive him.
Your question sounds like an excuse to not love him.