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The Differences Between Men & Women: Finding Harmony in God’s Design

 


This is a multi-part series. Installments will be posted each Monday and Wednesday.

Men and women are different, and their differences are not just physical. It is important to be aware of a few basic areas where the sexes differ from each other, as failure to recognize these can cause unnecessary problems in your marriage.

First, men and women think differently. This is part of how God made us. Generally speaking (buckle up, because there are many generalizations coming in this paragraph), men think analytically, and women think intuitively, although sometimes women can do both. Women have multitrack minds and can juggle many issues at once. Women are more likely than men to think in circles, and consequently are more prone to anxiety. Women are also more likely to think emotionally rather than logically.

The problem comes when men think that women are being illogical or not thinking right because they are thinking differently; or when women assume that a man’s analytical thinking is insensitive or cold. This can cause a relationship to become adversarial. Men and women should not fall into the trap of judging the other for the way they think. Instead, we should both focus on how we can be complementary. We are designed by God to work together.

Intuition can be a blessing, but we take it too far when we use it to attribute motives. Do not assume that you know what someone else is thinking or why someone else did something. Also, women should beware of thinking that men are intuitive—we aren’t. We cannot be unless we learn how. Do not be upset at your husband because he can’t be intuitive. That’s a setup from the Enemy. Don’t assume that he knows what you need, or you are setting yourself up to take offense when he fails to meet the need. Be kind to him: when you need something, if you know what you need, tell him. Husbands, study your wives. God has given you the responsibility to provide for and protect her; learn to anticipate her needs out of love for her.

(To be continued.)

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